Messy houses don’t mean a thing

Posted: May 21, 2012 in Survival Strategy
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Unwashed dishes in a sink; an authentic situation.

Unwashed dishes in a sink; an authentic situation. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Picture this– your best friend is sick with pneumonia. You come to drop off your home-made chicken soup and maybe visit for a little while. You ring the door bell.

A bleary-eyed woman answers the door. It’s clear that she hasn’t slept well for days. Her nose is red. Her hair is messy and her pajamas have seen better days. Her house is a wreck– the dishes haven’t been done for a week, the laundry is piled up in a corner, and her children’s toys are EVERYWHERE. What do you do? Do you judge her for being lazy? Do you criticize her for not taking care of things while she’s ill?

Of course not! You assure her that it’s fine, you don’t mind the mess at all. You give her the grace you would give anyone who has been sick for a long time.

The question is: do you give yourself that grace? If you’re like me, the answer is no. Why is it so easy for us to understand when others are struggling and so difficult for us to be good to ourselves? When I was at my hg-induced worst, just getting out of bed to go to the bathroom was a journey. There was no way I could do laundry, dishes, or any other chores. The guilt of that sat on my shoulders nearly every day. I don’t want that for you, my sisters in suffering.

What I’m about to say is controversial. It  may not make sense. It may go against everything you believe. But you need to accept it: The house may be a wreck, but it’s okay. It means nothing.

You are legitimately sick. I give you permission to rest. Sure, if you have the energy do a small chore. But if you don’t, your family will survive. Be good to yourself, give yourself the same grace you’d give someone else in your position. It’s okay to just sleep away the day (If you haven’t figured it out by now, let me tell you that hg gets easier to deal with the more you rest).

Please, put your feet up and let your loved ones help a little. You’ll be better soon enough. Obsess about the housework then.

P.S. We’re all in this together. How are you dealing with housework right now? Share your stories by posting a comment below.


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